Parenting: How Things Change and Judgement

How's everyone doing on this fine Tuesday? I hope all is well with all of you and you are conquering your early week tasks.

Baby J is teething right now (4 top teeth all at once, YIKES) so he needs some extra comfort which in return has not allowed me to get much research done on my next product review. But, I did have some other topics I wanted to discuss with all of you and wanted to get some feedback on what you think about some of these issues.

As new parents, my husband and I have discussed how we want to raise our kids. Now Baby J is only 9 Months old, but it's never too early to discuss how you want to parent. Will we be strict? Will we try to be the "cool" parents of the group? When will we let them get a cell phone? What about computer and social media access? Will we give allowance or just buy things freely?

There are a million questions as parents, but you will never have definite answers. I think generally you have an idea of how you want to be as a parent and how you want to deal with certain issues. However, I don't think you can truly know how you will react and solve the problem until the situation comes along. I think we reflect on how we were raised to determine how we want to be as parents, but so much has changed since then and the big no-no's of our generation, are normal occurrences now days.

My parents weren't strict, but they taught us right and wrong. My sister and I weren't angels by any means. We lived in a small town, and we knew that if we did something wrong our parents would find out and we would suffer the consequences. We both didn't want to deal with our consequences because our parents were tough when it came to discipline. Discipline has become such a different thing through the years. If you were too tough or spanked your children it was considered child abuse in some eyes and you were a bad parent.. If you were too nice and just let the child off easy, you were considered a push over and a bad parent. So which is right or wrong? You be the judge. Because they are your children.

Obviously, things are different. My sister and I had cell phones, I was 11 years old and she was 14 years old. Which 11 years old seems too soon to give a kid a cell phone now, but our phones weren't anything like the phones now. We couldn't text, couldn't take pictures, use the internet, and the only game we could play was snake. We didn't have the social media that kids have now, which causes a lot of trouble. We had a family computer that was in a public area so our parents could see what we were doing. We were active in sports and we played outside all the time. It seems as if kids are glued to the TV, video games, and their cell phones these days.

Now, I am only 23 years old and I am a new parent so I am not an expert parent by any means. But, I do notice things happen that wouldn't fly with our parents and realize how much things have changed. There are many ways to raise a child, and different types of parenting. I have no right to judge how you raise your children. Like I said, we have a general idea of how we want to be as parents but we will never really know until the situation comes along.

I think we reflect how our parents have raised us and use that to better our parenting. Luckily, my in-laws and my parents had the same type of parenting and that helps my husband and I agree on a lot of our parenting "rules".

So, here are my questions: Does your parenting style resemble your parents? What differences did you have compared to your spouse? What are some things you notice about todays generation, that wouldn't have flown with your parents? Do you feel judged by other parents? If so, for what reason? What are some of your rules for your children?

I would love to hear your feedback! Leave a comment below or message me with your answers!

Until next time, Loves!

- Danielle

The Inside Scoop

Welcome Ladies and Gents to our family blog.

 

As we start our next adventure, you are more than welcome to join us. This is a new step for us starting this blog, and I have plenty of fun ideas that I look forward to sharing with you.

 

Let me start out by giving you the low-down about us and our family. My name is Danielle, I am 23 years young and I am a stay-at-home mom. My husbands name is Chris, he is 29 years young and works as a aerospace mechanic. He also races dirt track modified (something that we will share with you). We have been married 2 1/2 years and we were blessed 6 months ago with our handsome son, Jayden. He is our first born child and is ornery as all get out, but we wouldn't have it any other way.

 

Our life is, well...average. We are first time parents trying to figure out how this whole parenting thing works. My husband spends a lot of time working in the garage. Whether that be working on his truck, or building race motors and selling race parts. He sold his race car last year and wanted to spend this year watching our son grow. They sure do grow fast within their first year.

He plans on building a new car from scratch, so I will make sure to keep you all up to date.

 

I on the other hand, spend most of my time with my son and doing normal house work. I suffer from severe allergic rhinitis and bronchial asthma so last year (a day before we found out we were pregnant) I lost my job due to having too many attacks at work. I have a weird sensitivity to cat dander. If I get near anyone who owns a cat, it can be in public, or even outside, I go into a severe attack and my throat closes up. Most doctors have been shocked at my sensitivity, and it happens to be so severe that there is nothing they can do to treat it. I basically just have to stay away from anyone or anything that has been around cats. Talk about tough. It was just a little over a year ago that it became this sensitive and we have lost a lot of friends and opportunities because of it. Not to mention we aren't able to see family members (in-laws, grandparents, and aunts and uncles) because of it. It is a sad situation that we are stuck in. But, we try to make the most of it and we are thankful that we have each other to lean on.

 

I think that sums up a bit about us. You will learn more as we go along.

 

STAY TUNED FOR 

- Pregnancy, birth story, and tips

- First time parent advice and tips

- Recipes

-Our journey of parenting

-Racing news, parts, and mechanical info

- Making our own baby food

- Baby product reviews

- Race product reviews

- and just our everyday story

 

We'll see you next time! =)